Information, support, and ideas on how to be a supportive friend to someone who loses a child to stillbirth, from a mom who has been through it
Dear friends, This is something you may not know: each month, there is a particular day on which I think of Charlie more. Not that I’m sad, per se, but he’s just on my mind more. It’s the day of the month he was born on – he was born in June 19th, so on
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Happy birthday, my sweet one. Now you are 4 years old. My friend Caitilin says for that makes you a proper preschooler! You would be so big now. You’re a big brother now. I imagine you so often, blond like your mommy and daddy were at this age. I imagine you being mischievousness when I’m
(Topic: Life after loss, grief, holidays) Hi Friends, I’m terrible at New Years Resolutions, and anyway, resolutions work better when you come to them bit by bit and work on them piece by piece. But for fun, and for reflection, here are a few things that I’m currently working on: 1) Be patient with myself,
(Topic: grief after loss support, holidays) Our mantle, stockings, and present area – no tree this year. Hi Friends, This year is different. This is our 4th Christmas after Charlie died, and every year has been different, but this year is really different. For the last 3 years, my reaction to Christmas has been what
(Topic: Grief, Religion, Christmas, Pregnancy) Hi Friends, Christmas, and particularly the figure of Mary, can be a bit complicated to come to terms with after experiencing infant loss. I’ve written about this before, exploring how the themes of pregnancy and happy arrival can be very difficult for a loss parent. I’ve felt sad, during the
(Topic: Thanksgiving, Holidays, Weighted Bear/Pookie) Hi Friends! Many loss parents struggle with Thanksgiving – it’s a holiday with a lot of family coming together, and not all families are completely understanding and supportive. My husband and I are lucky. Our families are both really supportive overall, and my family’s Thanksgiving traditions are pretty laid back
(Topic: Holiday traditions, memorials) Hi Friends, At first I thought I’d write about our personal traditions (which I will still include at the end!) but I realized there are so many good resources out there that I wanted to share. In this post you will find 5 great resources with their own lists of ideas
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(Topic: Grief, dealing with grief, triggers, pictures, loss, stillbirth, pregnancy and infant loss) Hi Friends, Charlie was born on Father’s Day. This weekend is so, so hard for us, every year. It’s odd, how my mind works. It doesn’t know what date Thursday was that year, or Friday, or Saturday – I only remember the
(Topic: grief, holidays, support) I know a mama who planted an azalea for every one of her babies who died. This one in my yard makes me think of her. Hi Friends, This post is a bit later than I’d intended, because this week is a tough one for loss families of many kinds. Being
(Topics: Grief and Anxiety, mental health, Easter/Religion, cemeteries) Hi Friends, The other day, I spent the day with Charlie. I have been feeling really, really sad and overwhelmed lately. Sometimes, when I’m feeling heavy, it’s very hard for me to figure out why – and knowing why makes it easier for me to either live