Big News

Big News

(Topic: Pregnancy, rainbow baby) Hi Friends, As you may have noticed, there have been some large gaps between posts lately. I am about a year late in telling you this… I was expecting and now have a rainbow baby! Please note, this post will talk about pregnancy and having a small baby, after having had

Father’s Day Is Hard For Us

(Topic: Grief, dealing with grief, triggers, pictures, loss, stillbirth, pregnancy and infant loss) Hi Friends, Charlie was born on Father’s Day. This weekend is so, so hard for us, every year. It’s odd, how my mind works. It doesn’t know what date Thursday was that year, or Friday, or Saturday – I only remember the

Not Weak OR Strong: Filling My Toolbox

(Topic: Vocabulary, Definitions) Hi Friends, A few weeks ago, I posted about the word “strong”, and how it applies to me. Or more specifically, I expressed my frustration that the word has two meanings – but that the meanings are completely opposite. I had several friends comment or chat with me, saying they thought I

Am I Strong?

(Topic: grief, strength, definitions) Hi Friends, Several times recently, I have been told I am strong. Over the last few years, it’s happened a few times more. Most frequently I have been told this by strangers, who don’t know anything about me, and who have just heard about Charlie – and if I’m not crying,

Thoughts about Easter

(Topics: Grief and Anxiety, mental health, Easter/Religion, cemeteries) Hi Friends, The other day, I spent the day with Charlie. I have been feeling really, really sad and overwhelmed lately. Sometimes, when I’m feeling heavy, it’s very hard for me to figure out why – and knowing why makes it easier for me to either live

Grief Language and Mental Health Issues related to grief

(Topic: Talking about grief, mental health and related items, and the language that we can use to talk about them) Dear Friends, *** NOTE: I AM NOT A MENTAL HEALTH EXPERT, OR A DOCTOR. THESE ARE MY OWN OBSERVATIONS. IF YOU FEEL YOU NEED HELP, PLEASE CONTACT A MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL *** One of the things

Copyright anxiety

(Topic: Anxiety, copyright, right-of-usage) Hi Friends, I’m not sure if you’ve noticed that I try to post twice a week. Generally on Wednesdays I try to post something specific to life after loss, and on Saturdays I often keep it lighter with pictures of something I’ve made. Recently, though, on January 26th, I missed a

Empty Arms, Weighted Bears (And Bonus Halloween Pictures!)

(Topic: Weighted bears, grief, grief recovery, infant loss, also Halloween!) Our Molly Bear, one weighted bear option Introduction This is another shareable post! Please feel free to share the link to this blog or this post specifically. In honor of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month, I am focusing on topics that will help friends

In A Different Light

(Topic: flowers, mental health, light) Dear Friends, Lately I have been admiring the lily. Not Plato’s Lily, not some ideal idea of a lily… I’ve been admiring the beautiful double lilies that grow in the garden of the house I rent. Beautiful salmon-orange with red and a touch of gold, with curling edges and the