Information, support, and ideas on how to be a supportive friend to someone who loses a child to stillbirth, from a mom who has been through it
Dear friends, This is something you may not know: each month, there is a particular day on which I think of Charlie more. Not that I’m sad, per se, but he’s just on my mind more. It’s the day of the month he was born on – he was born in June 19th, so on
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(Topic: Words, Death, Reactions, Triggers) Hi Friends, A few weeks ago, I posted about 15 words related to death that I either liked or disliked, and shared my reasons why I find some to be better than others. I don’t often have a lot of people comment on my posts, here or on Facebook or
(Topic: Words about death, opinions about effects of words) Hi Friends, One of the things I notice as the mom of a baby who died is that people sure use a lot of words about death that aren’t dead! Some of these words are fine, but some are possibly problematic for some people. Many of
(Topic: book, illness, grief, what to say) Image credit: Kate Bowler’s Website Book:Everything Happens For A Reason: And Other Lies I’ve Loved By Kate Bowler This is probably not a book I would have picked up on my own. Lately, I read mostly fiction, if I read. I don’t read nearly as much as I used
(Topic: Grief, dealing with grief, triggers, pictures, loss, stillbirth, pregnancy and infant loss) Hi Friends, Charlie was born on Father’s Day. This weekend is so, so hard for us, every year. It’s odd, how my mind works. It doesn’t know what date Thursday was that year, or Friday, or Saturday – I only remember the
(Topic: grief, strength, definitions) Hi Friends, Several times recently, I have been told I am strong. Over the last few years, it’s happened a few times more. Most frequently I have been told this by strangers, who don’t know anything about me, and who have just heard about Charlie – and if I’m not crying,
(topic: death, quotes) Hi Friends, Just something simple today. When I was recently watching Little Women (the PBS/Masterpiece version from 2017, with Angela Lansbury), there was a quote that really caught my ear (side note from the historical fashion side of me: some of the dresses are great. Some of the choices, though, are really
(Topics: Grief and Anxiety, mental health, Easter/Religion, cemeteries) Hi Friends, The other day, I spent the day with Charlie. I have been feeling really, really sad and overwhelmed lately. Sometimes, when I’m feeling heavy, it’s very hard for me to figure out why – and knowing why makes it easier for me to either live
(Topic: Pregnancy and Infant Loss Statistics) Introduction This is another shareable post! Please feel free to share the link to this blog or this post specifically. In honor of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month, I am focusing on topics that will help friends of families going through the loss of a baby, geared toward
(topic: loss, grief, communication, helping) Introduction This is a post in my series of posts honoring Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. My goal is for these posts to be shareable – if you are a loss parent, I hope you find this post helpful to share with your friends to help them understand you,
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