Support and How I Changed

Support and How I Changed

(Topic: grief after loss support, holidays) Our mantle, stockings, and present area – no tree this year. Hi Friends, This year is different. This is our 4th Christmas after Charlie died, and every year has been different, but this year is really different. For the last 3 years, my reaction to Christmas has been what

15 Words About Death and Infant Loss

(Topic: Words about death, opinions about effects of words) Hi Friends, One of the things I notice as the mom of a baby who died is that people sure use a lot of words about death that aren’t dead! Some of these words are fine, but some are possibly problematic for some people. Many of

What’s the Reason? A Book Review

(Topic: book, illness, grief, what to say) Image credit: Kate Bowler’s Website Book:Everything Happens For A Reason: And Other Lies I’ve Loved By Kate Bowler This is probably not a book I would have picked up on my own. Lately, I read mostly fiction, if I read. I don’t read nearly as much as I used

Not Weak OR Strong: Filling My Toolbox

(Topic: Vocabulary, Definitions) Hi Friends, A few weeks ago, I posted about the word “strong”, and how it applies to me. Or more specifically, I expressed my frustration that the word has two meanings – but that the meanings are completely opposite. I had several friends comment or chat with me, saying they thought I

Am I Strong?

(Topic: grief, strength, definitions) Hi Friends, Several times recently, I have been told I am strong. Over the last few years, it’s happened a few times more. Most frequently I have been told this by strangers, who don’t know anything about me, and who have just heard about Charlie – and if I’m not crying,

Grief Language and Mental Health Issues related to grief

(Topic: Talking about grief, mental health and related items, and the language that we can use to talk about them) Dear Friends, *** NOTE: I AM NOT A MENTAL HEALTH EXPERT, OR A DOCTOR. THESE ARE MY OWN OBSERVATIONS. IF YOU FEEL YOU NEED HELP, PLEASE CONTACT A MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL *** One of the things

Copyright anxiety

(Topic: Anxiety, copyright, right-of-usage) Hi Friends, I’m not sure if you’ve noticed that I try to post twice a week. Generally on Wednesdays I try to post something specific to life after loss, and on Saturdays I often keep it lighter with pictures of something I’ve made. Recently, though, on January 26th, I missed a

What can I say? Ideas on how to talk to and help a grieving friend

(topic: loss, grief, communication, helping) Introduction This is a post in my series of posts honoring Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. My goal is for these posts to be shareable – if you are a loss parent, I hope you find this post helpful to share with your friends to help them understand you,