(Topic: Grief, dealing with grief, triggers, pictures, loss, stillbirth, pregnancy and infant loss) Hi Friends, Charlie was born on Father’s Day. This weekend is so, so hard for us, every year. It’s odd, how my mind works. It doesn’t know what date Thursday was that year, or Friday, or Saturday – I only remember the
Category: Grief and Mourning
And Charlie Danced
(Topic: Grief, stories, pregnancy, music) Hi Friends, Recently I was looking for ways to mother Charlie (I’m feeling the need, since Charlie’s birthday is coming up next week on the 19th), and my therapist helped me brainstorm several things – and one of them that caught my fancy was to try writing again. But not
Not Weak OR Strong: Filling My Toolbox
(Topic: Vocabulary, Definitions) Hi Friends, A few weeks ago, I posted about the word “strong”, and how it applies to me. Or more specifically, I expressed my frustration that the word has two meanings – but that the meanings are completely opposite. I had several friends comment or chat with me, saying they thought I
Am I Strong?
(Topic: grief, strength, definitions) Hi Friends, Several times recently, I have been told I am strong. Over the last few years, it’s happened a few times more. Most frequently I have been told this by strangers, who don’t know anything about me, and who have just heard about Charlie – and if I’m not crying,
My Breath Away
(topic: grief triggers, happy reminders) Hi friends, Last summer, I took a picture and made some notes for this post, and I want to share them with you now. For some reason, there was a summer service at church that got changed around, and we missed the notification that the service was going to start
Mother’s Day and Father’s Day on my Mind at Once – Plus Tips on How to Support a Grieving Loved One
(Topic: grief, holidays, support) I know a mama who planted an azalea for every one of her babies who died. This one in my yard makes me think of her. Hi Friends, This post is a bit later than I’d intended, because this week is a tough one for loss families of many kinds. Being
Pookie’s Roles
(Topic: weighted bears and how they can help with grieving, personal observations) Hi Friends, I’ve had Pookie featured on this blog a lot. If you’re new, Pookie is the weighted bear we have, representing our stillborn son Charlie (Pookie’s introduction is here, and Charlie’s story is written out here). So you know, because I will
Angel quote
(topic: death, quotes) Hi Friends, Just something simple today. When I was recently watching Little Women (the PBS/Masterpiece version from 2017, with Angela Lansbury), there was a quote that really caught my ear (side note from the historical fashion side of me: some of the dresses are great. Some of the choices, though, are really
Thoughts about Easter
(Topics: Grief and Anxiety, mental health, Easter/Religion, cemeteries) Hi Friends, The other day, I spent the day with Charlie. I have been feeling really, really sad and overwhelmed lately. Sometimes, when I’m feeling heavy, it’s very hard for me to figure out why – and knowing why makes it easier for me to either live
Visiting Charlie in January
(Topic: visiting grave) Hi Friends, I’d like to share with you a little bit about visiting Charlie. At the moment, we live about 45 minutes away from where he’s buried. Pretty soon we’re going to be more like 2 hrs and 15 minutes away… This means that we visit Charlie whenever it makes sense to