Awareness Ribbon Shirt

(Topic: Grief, being in public, explaining) Hi Friends, Remember this shirt? A few days ago, I talked about how I altered the sleeves. Today I want to talk about wearing it. Here’s a picture of the front: I first wore this in public on Mother’s Day last year, and have worn it occasionally since. One

Why I’ll Never Use The Last Paper Towel

(Topic: Grief Triggers, pregnancy, stillbirth) honestly even this picture is uncomfortable for me Hi Friends, This is a story I alluded to recently, when I talked about why my posts aren’t always posted exactly on schedule. I mentioned various triggers, one of which was empty paper towel tubes. That one isn’t obvious to most people,

An Angel Baby Blanket

(Topic: Stillbirth, knitting, donation) Hi Friends! Well, anxiety makes it hard to sleep and lack of sleep sometimes gives me migraines – not a great combo for sitting down and writing. That said, I actually have a completed project to show you this week! In the past I have donate blankets to the NICU, but

Searching for Silver Linings

(Topic: life after loss) Hi Friends, If you lost your favorite sweater, would you appreciate me saying, “at least it was one that wasn’t flattering”? No, you would likely appreciate it much more if I said, “I’m so sorry, that really sucks. I hope you find it.” Not that when someone dies, you can just

Grief Language and Mental Health Issues related to grief

(Topic: Talking about grief, mental health and related items, and the language that we can use to talk about them) Dear Friends, *** NOTE: I AM NOT A MENTAL HEALTH EXPERT, OR A DOCTOR. THESE ARE MY OWN OBSERVATIONS. IF YOU FEEL YOU NEED HELP, PLEASE CONTACT A MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL *** One of the things

Copyright anxiety

(Topic: Anxiety, copyright, right-of-usage) Hi Friends, I’m not sure if you’ve noticed that I try to post twice a week. Generally on Wednesdays I try to post something specific to life after loss, and on Saturdays I often keep it lighter with pictures of something I’ve made. Recently, though, on January 26th, I missed a

How many months?

(Topic: Age of deceased child, thoughts) Hi Friends, Charlie recently “turned” 2-1/2. He “wouldbe/is” a toddler to me, but what struck me that day was that I didn’t notice the day until it was nearly over (December 19th, the “half-birthday”). Early on, I noticed when the 19th came along, every month. I even noticed the

Christmas 2018 with Pookie

(Topic: Christmas/holidays, family, incorporating a deceased loved one in the celebrations) Hi friends! This year we traveled to family for the holidays. I had hoped to get this post done for Wednesday the 26th, right after Christmas, but with travel and getting the photos in the right places and ready, I got a bit behind