The Math of Grief

(Topic: Infant loss, grief, math) Image credit: http://aetherforce.com/fibonacci/ Dear Friends, I have friends with all sorts of backgrounds, and all sorts of experience. A friend of mine just went through a grief event, so we have been talking, and both of us try to find analogies to help put grief into perspective, or to make

Post-MWAH Wrap-Up

(Topic: grief, habits, art, religion/spirituality)  Dear Friends, If I can say one thing, it is that adding a daily discipline – other than the habits I’m used to – is hard! No surprise, there, but that’s the short explanation of why I didn’t do MWAH every day this month. Additionally, it’s extra hard if it

Look at all the babies

(Topic: Grief vs. other people’s pregnancies/babies) Dear Friends, Lately, I feel like every single person I know is having a baby – including about half my grief group members, local friends, Facebook friends, and even our favorite waitress at the diner we go to every week. This, itself, has been hard for me, but then

Mother’s Day 2018

(Topic: Grief vs. holidays) Hi Friends, Today is the day before Mother’s Day, and I’m nervous. I’m nervous about being invisible, I’m nervous about being too visible, I’m nervous about doing it without kids, I’m nervous about crying, I’m nervous about being recognized in church and getting emotional. Invisible, because without a child in tow,

Headwrapping and head covering – historically

(Topic: Historical Fashion) Hi Friends! A friend of mine recently started wearing headwraps, and I ended up trying them too, after someone suggested they may help with my anxiety (mixed results: once they are on, I at least perceived a certain amount of comfort from them, but getting them on sometimes was more stressful…). Well,

Introductions: Bears and Others

Introductions Part II Bears and Others Hi Friends! I promised pictures of the non-tigers… so here we go! Oh, well actually, first is a new tiger to the bunch! He’s a Tigger, but since we already have a Tigger, this guy needs a name, or at least some sort of nickname to differentiate him. He’s

Birthday Ideas for Charlie

(topic: remembering a child on their birthday, infant loss, memorial ideas)  Dear friends, This year, in June, Charlie will be turning 2. If you would like to help us remember him in a more tangible way, here are a few things you can do: Ways to remember Charlie on his 2nd Birthday (June 19th) Support

What If?

(topic: grief, regrets) Dear Friends, As I write this it, has been maybe all of a few hours since I finished a novel – which was good, and enjoyable, overall. Interestingly, of the 5 books I’ve read by this author, so far 4 of them have had characters who had experienced infant loss prior to