Happy New Year! … Right? A reflection on common holiday phrases I have seen some other loss mamas posting on Facebook about how they don’t like the phrase “Happy New Year”. I can fully understand that, since it sounds like the person is saying the year is happy. For me, though, they are wishing me
Category: Infant loss
Our Tiger Cub’s Blanket
Dear Friends, In my previous post about Dolly Parton, I mentioned that I had made a blanket, and that working on it helped me in my grief journey. This post is sharing that blanket!! It is a cotton blanket, crocheted with just single crochet. The interest is in the variegated yarns and which colors I
Movie Review: Dolly Parton’s Coat of Many Colors
Hi Friends, Not long ago, I was poking through the DVD options at the library, for something to watch while knitting. I do this often, and, as usual, came home with a handful of titles that caught my eye, some of which I was familiar with, and some of which just sounded interesting based on
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In the Right Place, At the Right Time
…Or, Why I Take Pookie With Me To Public Places There are many reasons I take Pookie with me, the primary one being that I feel like I need a little one to hold, and/or the comfort of a stuffed toy. I’ll sometimes take him just for company, but usually it’s because I’m going somewhere
October
Friends, October means a lot to many of those in the baby loss community, whether or not any personally significant dates for that family occur in this month. October is infant loss awareness month, with the 15th being “remembrance day”. So, there are more events, ceremonies, walks, etc. in October than most months. In fact,
Diagnosis: Heartache, Chronic. Ok?
Dear Friends, One of the things I’m learning (slowly) is to be patient with myself, and forgiving. I’ve never really been terribly patient! I’m sure if my parents are reading this, they’re nodding along. When it comes to grief, though, part of the “problem” that makes it difficult, is that there is no set of
Baby Tree
Hi Friends, When Charlie was newly born and we were getting gifts after the funeral, we got a few that were not tangible. They were really wonderful, too! For instance, one person bought a star in his name, so we got a certificate and a star map to show us where it is (it’s a
No Smash Cake!
Hi Friends, Charlie’s party went beautifully. On Saturday night, hubby was working overnight, so I was alone in the house. I’d been doing ok, knitting and watching movies, but once I started getting ready for bed, it hit me that it was Father’s Day (it was past midnight), which was the day Charlie was born
Learning and Growing
This is a tree in the cemetery. I don’t know what kind it is. Dear friends, I recently learned a phrase that I find beautiful, and really hits the nail on the head. Have you ever noticed how, in English, we have no real, common word for a parent who has lost a child? We
Happy Birthday, Little Charlie
Hi Friends, I am doing something very difficult right now. On June 19th, 2017, it will be exactly one year since our son Charlie was born. Stillborn. Died. Was baptised. Everything. His whole life. And I am planning a party. Well, not exactly a party. What would you call it? A get-together? A memorial picnic?