The Math of Grief

(Topic: Infant loss, grief, math) Image credit: http://aetherforce.com/fibonacci/ Dear Friends, I have friends with all sorts of backgrounds, and all sorts of experience. A friend of mine just went through a grief event, so we have been talking, and both of us try to find analogies to help put grief into perspective, or to make

Father’s Day 2018

(Topics: Grief, loss, infant loss, Father’s Day) Dear Friends, The year Charlie was born, Father’s Day fell on June 19th, and it was a Sunday. That morning, after a long and emotional weekend, I gave birth to our beautiful little baby boy, and we spent my husband’s first Father’s Day mourning our first child. I

Post-MWAH Wrap-Up

(Topic: grief, habits, art, religion/spirituality)  Dear Friends, If I can say one thing, it is that adding a daily discipline – other than the habits I’m used to – is hard! No surprise, there, but that’s the short explanation of why I didn’t do MWAH every day this month. Additionally, it’s extra hard if it

Look at all the babies

(Topic: Grief vs. other people’s pregnancies/babies) Dear Friends, Lately, I feel like every single person I know is having a baby – including about half my grief group members, local friends, Facebook friends, and even our favorite waitress at the diner we go to every week. This, itself, has been hard for me, but then

Pookie’s First Flight

[trigger warning: this post will discuss themes related to strong emotion, miscarriage, fear, and grief]  Dear Friends, Guess who just took his first airplane flight?!? [and probably his last… more on that later]. We recently took a trip to Boston, and this was the first time I’d flown with Pookie. Previously, all trips we’ve taken

Birthday Ideas for Charlie

(topic: remembering a child on their birthday, infant loss, memorial ideas)  Dear friends, This year, in June, Charlie will be turning 2. If you would like to help us remember him in a more tangible way, here are a few things you can do: Ways to remember Charlie on his 2nd Birthday (June 19th) Support

Pookie Visits Santa

(Topic: What I would be doing with Charlie) Dear Friends, This post is a bit late! Oops! I thought I’d posted this picture, but realized that I hadn’t, and thus, hadn’t shared the story. This last Christmas I did something I don’t ever remember doing before. I went to a mall Santa. I’ve never ever

What If?

(topic: grief, regrets) Dear Friends, As I write this it, has been maybe all of a few hours since I finished a novel – which was good, and enjoyable, overall. Interestingly, of the 5 books I’ve read by this author, so far 4 of them have had characters who had experienced infant loss prior to

Reminder: Walking in Charlie’s Memory.

(topic: Infant loss remembrance walk) Hi Friends! Once again a reminder that on June 23rd, we will be taking part in the Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep (NILMDTS) sponsored remembrance walk. We have our own team (Team Tiger!) and we’d love for you to join us if you can, or sponsor us as

Learning to Reply

Dear Friends, Over the past few days, I ran into some difficult questions. Ones I’ve had asked of me before, but they have been ones that are tricky to reply to. I want to share a little success story, because I’m really happy with how I managed to reply. That said, I’m going to make