Post-MWAH Wrap-Up

(Topic: grief, habits, art, religion/spirituality)  Dear Friends, If I can say one thing, it is that adding a daily discipline – other than the habits I’m used to – is hard! No surprise, there, but that’s the short explanation of why I didn’t do MWAH every day this month. Additionally, it’s extra hard if it

Look at all the babies

(Topic: Grief vs. other people’s pregnancies/babies) Dear Friends, Lately, I feel like every single person I know is having a baby – including about half my grief group members, local friends, Facebook friends, and even our favorite waitress at the diner we go to every week. This, itself, has been hard for me, but then

Pookie’s First Flight

[trigger warning: this post will discuss themes related to strong emotion, miscarriage, fear, and grief]  Dear Friends, Guess who just took his first airplane flight?!? [and probably his last… more on that later]. We recently took a trip to Boston, and this was the first time I’d flown with Pookie. Previously, all trips we’ve taken

Birthday Ideas for Charlie

(topic: remembering a child on their birthday, infant loss, memorial ideas)  Dear friends, This year, in June, Charlie will be turning 2. If you would like to help us remember him in a more tangible way, here are a few things you can do: Ways to remember Charlie on his 2nd Birthday (June 19th) Support

Pookie Visits Santa

(Topic: What I would be doing with Charlie) Dear Friends, This post is a bit late! Oops! I thought I’d posted this picture, but realized that I hadn’t, and thus, hadn’t shared the story. This last Christmas I did something I don’t ever remember doing before. I went to a mall Santa. I’ve never ever

What If?

(topic: grief, regrets) Dear Friends, As I write this it, has been maybe all of a few hours since I finished a novel – which was good, and enjoyable, overall. Interestingly, of the 5 books I’ve read by this author, so far 4 of them have had characters who had experienced infant loss prior to

Learning to Reply

Dear Friends, Over the past few days, I ran into some difficult questions. Ones I’ve had asked of me before, but they have been ones that are tricky to reply to. I want to share a little success story, because I’m really happy with how I managed to reply. That said, I’m going to make

Pookie’s BooBoo

 Hi Friends, I would like to share something with you. A few months ago I PANICKED. I found a place on Pookie’s face, not even at a seam, where there was a tear in his fur (probably a run from when they placed his eyes). Now, as you know from reading this blog, I am

Triggersville

(Posted next morning, due to upload issues. I will add the pictures this morning)(Edited on 2/23 evening to add photos.) Dear friends, Right now my eyes are burning because I’ve been crying, and it wouldn’t take much to get me going again. Today has actually been a pretty good day, but right at the end

My Memory Gap

My Memory Gap The First 6 Months After Loss There’s a funny thing I’ve noticed. We are now at just over 1-1/2 years since Charlie died, and our lives go on being lives, even while we miss him. We travel, we work, we keep house, we even moved. But I have noticed something: for me,